Ex-Church of Christ Support Board

Thank you!

At the beginning of 2024 I found myself shutting down due to magnified stress at work. I was dealing with two difficult situations in a small town and my name was being trashed all over social media. I was simply doing my job and doing it well, but I made some influential people unhappy. I ended up ...

My (ex-)wife and I had fellowship withdrawn when we chose to attend a different congregation. The small (seven member) congregation we had been attending sent us a certified letter with a bullet list and supporting documentation indicating how the new congregation was unscriptural and concluded that...

Hi, I visited this site a few years ago. I don’t really remember why I quit, but I think maybe I had a disagreement with someone and left to preserve my peace. If I said anything to wrong anyone I truly apologize. I try to never hurt or offend anyone if possible. I’m back because I realize until I d...

My first serious girlfriend in high school had a kid and was recently divorced. Her husband had cheated on her but she also had sex before the divorce was final so it was deemed that she didn't have scriptural grounds for divorce. I was pressured into breaking up with her. The sad thing was we were ...

I remember asking questions and never being satisfied with the answers. Oddly, I just incorporated the poor responses to my questions in my beliefs. Cognitive dissonance comes to mind as an explanation. Holding two contradictory concepts as truth in your mind at the same time. The really weird thing...

When you think of it we all disfellowshipped the Church of Christ. :lol: My wife and I were disfellowshipped by a small legalistic congregation when we chose to go to a nearby bigger "liberal" congregation. They cited links to "liberal" coc affiliated universities on the second ...

Looking back I can see clearly that the control comes from instilling fear and guilt. At the time, growing up in the coc, I never saw it that way. I didn't think I was being controlled. I didn't think an unrational fear of hell was keeping me from questioning the church. I didn't think shame was kee...