Hi, I visited this site a few years ago. I don’t really remember why I quit, but I think maybe I had a disagreement with someone and left to preserve my peace. If I said anything to wrong anyone I truly apologize. I try to never hurt or offend anyone if possible.
I’m back because I realize until I deal directly with my traumatic upbringing in the coc I am not going to escape the persistent mental health issues I have.
Also, since I was here last I have left an emotionally abusive marriage to a narcissist and subsequently a similar relationship to a second narcissist. I realize that my history in the coc has left me vulnerable and susceptible to ongoing abuse.
Most recently I’ve reconnected with and am now seeing my first girlfriend (we were 18 then and 50 now) who my family and coc congregation pressured me into breaking up with because she was divorced and had a small child.
I took her to my family’s Thanksgiving meal. I did ask my mom if it would be okay so as not to shock everyone and she said she wouldn’t treat her bad, but that my girlfriends situation hadn’t changed (the assumed unscriptural divorce) so she would never be okay with me being with her.
She behaved at Thanksgiving and was actually nice to my gf. The rest of my family accepted her and welcomed her. But I foresee ongoing issues with my mom. And I have realized I need to address the abuse and manipulation I’ve experienced in the coc.
I am grateful for this forum.
Back again
Re: Back again
Welcome back. I hope you can find some healing.
Moogy
NI COC for over 30 years, but out for over 40 years now
Mostly Methodist for about 30 years.
Left the UMC in 2019 based on their decision to condemn LGBT+ persons and to discipline Pastors who perform same-sex marriages
NI COC for over 30 years, but out for over 40 years now
Mostly Methodist for about 30 years.
Left the UMC in 2019 based on their decision to condemn LGBT+ persons and to discipline Pastors who perform same-sex marriages