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Re: Introduction
Posted: Tue Feb 24, 2015 8:15 pm
by GMan
Glad to have you with us. Many can relate to what you experienced. Enjoy and get a laugh or two here, along with some moral support.
Re: Introduction
Posted: Tue Feb 24, 2015 9:19 pm
by lvmaus
Good to have you aboard. Tons of people here that share your frustrations with the CoC.
Re: Introduction
Posted: Tue Feb 24, 2015 9:55 pm
by Moogy
Welcome. You are among friends. You might want to check out
http://www.reveal.com Itis for people who have left the ICOC or Boston movement COC. That splinter group is even crazier than most other COCs. There are cult-like aspects in many COCs, but the ICOC groups have even more.
Re: Introduction
Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2015 3:10 pm
by AtPeace
Hi jryan,
Thank you for sharing some things about your history. I am so sorry those things happened to you. I really am.
It sounds to me like you were in a CoC that is a very tiny percentage of what the majority, mainstream CoC is. It sounds like you were in a very cloistered group that made up a lot of its own "doctrine" and became a sick system isolated from anyone or anything that would shine light on the its dysfunction (therefore, the IRS issue).
This is not the norm in my life-long experience in the mainstream CoC.
Glad you're here....
Re: Introduction
Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2015 10:05 pm
by agricola
Welcome to the board -
I've never heard of a coc that sounds like the one you describe - but hey...anything can happen, because nothing is set in stone as long as some influential preacher-type can influence other people to believe something else.
klp's summary is very good though.
Re: Introduction
Posted: Fri Feb 27, 2015 3:10 am
by Hildegard
Welcome Jryan! I'm so sorry for what you've been through. I hope we can be of help to you.
I second checking out reveal.org. I had some friends in the ICOC and they reported the same kinds of behaviors.
I'm so sorry the church involved itself in your marriage. That is not its role, but as klp and others said, salvation trumps everything, especially boundaries.
Re: Introduction
Posted: Fri Feb 27, 2015 11:35 am
by jryan17
yes, they are extremely cloistered. The core members (the ones that survived all the splits) avoid associating with anyone outside the church other than immediate family - always thought that was odd...
Yeah the IRS thing was weird...one Sunday morning an Elder gets up and says "church owes 65,000 to IRS" ...no details other than "back payroll taxes" and "don't talk about it in the community"