Ex-Church of Christ Support Board

Hi everyone,
I fell down a rabbit hole and ended up here. I've been out of CoC for over 40 years but my grandfather was a preacher and am at least 4th generation CoC and went to a CoC school from 4th-7th grade and church mostly 3x a week for 12 or so years.

I've been working on some childhood trauma, including a lot of CoC trama and that's why I landed here. I was 13 when I decided it was mainly nonsense and spent several years trying to find a god to believe until I decided for me... There wasn't one. But even decades later, I'm finding aspects of my life that were affected horribly by CoC, and when applying it to the B.I.T.E. model, which is based on abusive relationships... It is definitely an abusive cult. I'm so glad I got out early and am glad to be among others who rejected it.

Welcome, Bobby!! Glad you found us in the rabbit hole.

Before you mentioned it here, I had never heard of the BITE model per se. I just googled it. Looks like
a mountain's worth of interesting reading. Thanks for sharing that bit of info.

Hi Bobby - welcome to the board.
Like you, I checked out mentally in early teens but took a decade or more to actually get away - and DECADES later still discovering ways that upbringing still affects me in - shall we say - non-positive ways.

I will have to google 'BITE' - and if you want to talk about it, a good place might be 'New Paths'- non-Christian, so other people can learn more about it. Only if you want to explain it, though.

Welcome to the board!

Welcome to the board.

It took me until age 52 to figure it out! But it's been 10 years now, end of January through early February 2012, when it all became obvious.

And yet, it's still affecting you. I guess I won't be too hard on myself, then.

Welcome aboard, and looking forward to hearing from you.