Need Advice
Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2023 9:04 pm
I was baptized in the ICOC Oahu Church of Christ in Honolulu in 1997, left the church in 2000, and came back in late 2002. After being restored, I moved overseas for 4 years. I was in Singapore Central Christian Church when the Henry Kriete letter and subsequent shake up in 2003 came to light. I was married in 2005 to a single mom with two sons and we had a son together in 2006. In 2007, I was apart of the San Diego Church of Christ. Since early 2010, I have been apart of Mission Point Christian Church in San Antonio, Texas and my daughter was born later in 2010.
After more than 25 years, I need advise in light of recent new development of numerous lawsuits against ICOC, ICC, Hope Worldwide, and various individuals.
What to do? Obtaining a relationship with God has been the best thing for my character and I know being a Christian is right. The problem - the lawsuits reveal that there are still unresolved issues that have been hidden for years and that some things with the ministry staff have not changed. I am considering leaving but... I do not know where to go or what to do. If I take my family and myself to another church and it becomes know we were apart of ICOC, will we be shunned? Will they think I am trying to infiltrate to recruit others for ICOC? Between a rock and a hard place.
I am also concerned about relationships my kids, my wife, and I have with current members and their families. What effect will leaving have on my family? I don't have any ill will toward regular members. My issue is with how the ministry staff has been managing church affairs through the years.
I think I want to discuss the many issues I have with the ministry staff but feel my concerns will be ignored or suppressed. Even if they 'listen', it seems real change might not happen or will be short-lived.
These issues cause me much concern to the point that I feel distracted and have trouble reading my bible and praying on a daily basis.
Your advice is welcome and appreciated.
After more than 25 years, I need advise in light of recent new development of numerous lawsuits against ICOC, ICC, Hope Worldwide, and various individuals.
What to do? Obtaining a relationship with God has been the best thing for my character and I know being a Christian is right. The problem - the lawsuits reveal that there are still unresolved issues that have been hidden for years and that some things with the ministry staff have not changed. I am considering leaving but... I do not know where to go or what to do. If I take my family and myself to another church and it becomes know we were apart of ICOC, will we be shunned? Will they think I am trying to infiltrate to recruit others for ICOC? Between a rock and a hard place.
I am also concerned about relationships my kids, my wife, and I have with current members and their families. What effect will leaving have on my family? I don't have any ill will toward regular members. My issue is with how the ministry staff has been managing church affairs through the years.
I think I want to discuss the many issues I have with the ministry staff but feel my concerns will be ignored or suppressed. Even if they 'listen', it seems real change might not happen or will be short-lived.
These issues cause me much concern to the point that I feel distracted and have trouble reading my bible and praying on a daily basis.
Your advice is welcome and appreciated.