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Miss the COmmunity

Posted: Sun Jul 12, 2015 12:46 am
by bereftmostly
Hi, i've not been in the church for quite some time. I miss the community of it. We went 3 times a week grwoing up and i have tried other churches and they arent the same. I wouldn't say that i am an Atheist but i dont know what i am no, just mostly bereft. I have flirted with the idea of going back just for the community. I wish theyd get rid of the word church and start paying their taxes

Re: Miss the COmmunity

Posted: Sun Jul 12, 2015 11:28 am
by shlybluz
You sound like I feel on occasion. I miss some of the people I knew back then. If it was just a social club without religion I might have stuck around.

Re: Miss the COmmunity

Posted: Sun Jul 12, 2015 12:02 pm
by agricola
You'll get over it, eventually - and of course other churches aren't like the coc (and thank goodness for it). But there is also considerable emotional comfort in what we are familiar with, and especially what we are familiar with from childhood. It's not like absolutely EVERYTHING about growing up coc is 'bad' or 'wrong'. There is plenty of good stuff from time to time. But the good stuff is so mixed with other things, and what good stuff there is DOES exist in other places, after all, that sticking around (or going back) for the good parts rarely ends up being truly satisfying.

Re: Miss the COmmunity

Posted: Sun Jul 12, 2015 5:02 pm
by GMan
When I first left for a bit I felt the same way. Yet with time and discoving life that isn't so connected to straight conventions, I have much more community than I did before.

Welcome.

Re: Miss the COmmunity

Posted: Mon Jul 13, 2015 8:48 pm
by Ivy
I believe I know exactly what you mean. When I was still trying to find a church "fit" with that unique kind community
born of ..... what was it born of? I have never been exactly sure how to describe it, but I never did find it. And going back just for community was never really an option once I had truly made the break.