C of C Conversations

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[KLP]

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[agricola]

It depends on the individuals involved, because some coc people can be quite 'normal' and the discussions can be interesting and informative. Other people are just - pointless to argue with.

Family, of course, is doubly difficult because of the family relationship itself. A person might be very comfortable discussing some issue with an acquaintance, and turn into an impossible and unreasonable opponent when the same exact issue is brought up by their kid, or their brother. It hits (literally) closer to home, you know?

Mostly on this site we discourage discussing 'religion' with family members in the immediate aftermath of 'leaving'. Maybe after that particular issue has settled down it might be possible, or easier.

[faithfyl]

All I can remember was the rampant criticism.

[onward]

All I can remember was the rampant criticism.

Such is the fate of those brave enough to reject their distorted doctrines and cultish traditions.

[Lev]

Only thing else I have seen is where there is a strong college affiliation or connection, usually sports. So Ohio, Kentucky, Texas A&M, Tennessee, or Alabama...I am sure there are other pockets. But in places the population in general is nuts over some school team and so it pervades the church, and sermons, and clothing.

I've seen this too and find it odd, considering the general distain for higher education among COCers.

Lev

[Melanie]

Family, of course, is doubly difficult because of the family relationship itself. A person might be very comfortable discussing some issue with an acquaintance, and turn into an impossible and unreasonable opponent when the same exact issue is brought up by their kid, or their brother. It hits (literally) closer to home, you know?

My father-in-law (GRHS) was the epitome of this. He was an elder and was very patient and kind to church members and those outside the "church" who had questions. But if one of the family asked a question on a point of scripture -- and I'm talking legitimate question and not an attempt at being contentious or expressing doubt -- he would go 10 shades of red and scream at the top of his lungs and even throw things across the room. I think it made him mad that one of his own family didn't already know the answer, because he would try to make you feel you were stupid for having to ask. In some cases, he may have seen even an honest question as evidence of doubting or trying to defy scriptural authority (or HIS authority). You couldn't talk politics with him, either. (He thought Rush Limbaugh walked on water.) I never understood why he was capable of holding a civil and respectful conversation with anyone except his family. It's sad, really.