Good news... I told my husband about today's e-mail exchange. He found the "unfair" comment to be inappropriate. He's totally got my back on this type of thing. We both agree that the guy's initial intentions were good, but calling me unfair for not wanting to study with him every week, nope. I will study with my husband, not someone else's husband, thank you.
And the elders are planning to make the announcement this Sunday. Apparently, my husband wanted to give the deacons a heads up, personally. So he's been doing that this week. I will note that none of the elders have contacted me since I talked to the one elder last week. So they have not harassed me. And the texts I've received have been from people who don't know that I've left. My husband has my back and will make sure I don't get harassed. He's also going to tell them to tell the congregation not to try to do studies with me. I love him.
So I'm feeling much better this evening!