The brain washing technique is fear based. It takes alot of courage to face the truth. There are many problems with the CoC mindset. First is that you cannot trust any other Church. This keeps you trapped in the CoC. It is self serving. The reasons given is they don't baptize right and they use instrumental music. There are many other churches that immerse. There is no where in the Bible where instruments are condemned. So they come up with a straw-man argument and beat it into the ground. I was so disturbed I could not see the facts as I got away and could look at the facts rationally. It is tough to see the facts while immersed in that toxic environment. I have heard many times on this board people saying that they could not trust any other church to escape when escaping is often necessary to get your head righttifarmer wrote:While I doubt that "My Story: Why I Left the C of C" would be edifying--or even interesting--to you, Findingmyway, or any others, I do hope that someone on this forum can find a bit of comfort in this observation: those feelings of guilt (I'm turning my back on the very people who made me what I am) and shame (Why didn't I leave long ago?) and fear (What if they're right and I really am twice the child of hell . . . ?) do pass.
I found that it helped to be conscious and intentional for several years about ridding one's life of all superstition. And, sadly, it may require deaths in a generation or two older than you. But one day you'll drive by the--let's say--three CoC buildings within a few blocks of each other in some little town and feel only faint amusement.
Your comment about deaths is true. Most of the adults I knew in the CoC 50 years ago are dead. I am 70 and born into the CoC. My parents converted before I was born. Why I do not know. Most of the children I knew no longer attend this church. Things move on. Looking at their web site the Elders are different and the preacher has a education. I hope they are better but I am not going back too find out specifics.