I was active on this forum years ago. Just logged in and it says the last time I was here was in 2017, so it's been a while.
This past September my wife and kids finally left the legalistic CoC. Took long enough, lol.
Anyway, I made a video sharing a bit of our journey and my thoughts on all this. Not just leaving, but coming fully out - both for the cathartic benefit of getting it out of my system and out into the world, and to hopefully help a few others who are struggling through all this.
Here it is should you wish to view: https://youtu.be/158pFz5xIv8
jeremiah wrote: ↑Mon Mar 25, 2024 9:51 am
I was active on this forum years ago. Just logged in and it says the last time I was here was in 2017, so it's been a while.
This past September my wife and kids finally left the legalistic CoC. Took long enough, lol.
Anyway, I made a video sharing a bit of our journey and my thoughts on all this. Not just leaving, but coming fully out - both for the cathartic benefit of getting it out of my system and out into the world, and to hopefully help a few others who are struggling through all this.
Here it is should you wish to view: https://youtu.be/158pFz5xIv8
Welcome back, congratulations, and how cool!
History is the fiction we invent to persuade ourselves that events are knowable and that life has order and direction. That's why events are always reinterpreted when values change. We need new versions of history to allow for our current prejudices.
I watched this when you posted it on Facebook. I know it takes tremendous strength and courage to make such a change in a family such as yours. I hope your new church home is a place of rest and rejuvenation on your spiritual journey. For me, the journey is ongoing.
My sympathy on the recent loss of your dear grandmother.
Moogy
Moogy
NI COC for over 30 years, but out for over 40 years now
Mostly Methodist for about 30 years.
Left the UMC in 2019 based on their decision to condemn LGBT+ persons and to discipline Pastors who perform same-sex marriages
Thank you for posting. I’m about to take a look at your video. I’m trying to get out. I’m soft launching at the moment with a liberal COC. Trying not to loose my mind. The fear and brain freeze I have is horrible. The default of my brain is to switch back to the memorized programming.
I’m single with kids. I’m getting married in July. No worries. He’s not COC.
Just trying to find my way out of the forest without loosing my mind. Open to books, tips, suggestions. Glad you wandered back in.
HHampton wrote: ↑Wed May 29, 2024 7:03 pm
Thank you for posting. I’m about to take a look at your video. I’m trying to get out. I’m soft launching at the moment with a liberal COC. Trying not to loose my mind. The fear and brain freeze I have is horrible. The default of my brain is to switch back to the memorized programming.
I’m single with kids. I’m getting married in July. No worries. He’s not COC.
Just trying to find my way out of the forest without loosing my mind. Open to books, tips, suggestions. Glad you wandered back in.
Our constant advice:
Leave FIRST.
Thoroughly leave.
Then and ONLY then, begin the search for a new religious home IF YOU DECIDE TO DO SO, and do your 'due diligence' before officially joining anything.
Despite a lot of CoC (and several other denomination) teachings, you truly do NOT need to park your rear end in some random pew EVERY SINGLE WEEK.
That isn't even what 'forsaking the assembly' even MEANS.
good luck.
History is the fiction we invent to persuade ourselves that events are knowable and that life has order and direction. That's why events are always reinterpreted when values change. We need new versions of history to allow for our current prejudices.
